Family, Work and the Cost, Where is the line?

It’s a Sunday morning and at 5am my phone rings after having putting in a 50 hour work week. It’s a coworker needing relief as they have been on call and working for over 24 hours. It’s a friend so I agree to come in to work and relieve her to let her go home for 8 hours. I am grateful in one since for the overtime pay which is great. In the other since I have had over 70-130 hours of overtime a month since last November. I covet my weekends and evenings with my kids and my wife, but always appreciate the extra money. I have 2 kids with Cystic Fibrosis who I want to be around and support as much as possible as well. I have lately been struggling with this as my kiddos are missing out on their dad, and my wife doesn’t see me much. Where is the line? When is enough, enough? I make good money, but at what price. This has been a large part of my prayer life and thoughts lately as my job provides well and the benefits and retirement are great. Again the struggle is how much am I willing to give up with my family?

I am curious those of you out their that have been through similar struggles and this dilemma what conclusions have you drawn? Especially in this economy?

Any Millionaires want to share lol.

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Why We Love Writing, And You Should Too…


Writing is an incredible form of expression. It allows you time to gather your thoughts, and organize them onto paper whether its a blog, journal, research paper, quick notes, you name it. There is an incredible power in the art of writing, and the health benefits.

Writing as a stress relief:

1) I have learned to keep a digital journal at my job to record my days events, to protect myself for accountability in my line of work, as well as write out my frustrations to allow me time to reflect on them, before trying to remedy issues that need addressed.

2) Writing down ideas, dreams, and goals helps you to make plans, and take actions to change your life by making your thoughts a visual reminder.

3) When learning new material whether it’s for an academic class, work or self reflection making notes, writing down main points, items that stand out help you to put that content into long term memory. This will help with frustration and organization.

“Stress, trauma, and unexpected life developments — such as a cancer diagnosis, a car accident, or a layoff — can throw people off stride emotionally and mentally. Writing about thoughts and feelings that arise from a traumatic or stressful life experience — called expressive writing — may help some people cope with the emotional fallout of such events”. -Health Harvard

“You can use journaling to help you deal with stressors you don’t feel comfortable sharing with others. Stress psychologists have shown that journaling enhances immune function and can alter the course of chronic conditions such as rheumatoid arthritis and asthma”. -Pamela M. Peeke, MD, MPH (healthywomen.org)

“A groundbreaking study of writing’s physical effects appeared in the Journal of the American Medical Association (Vol. 281, No. 14) three years ago. In the study, led by Smyth, 107 asthma and rheumatoid arthritis patients wrote for 20 minutes on each of three consecutive days–71 of them about the most stressful event of their lives and the rest about the emotionally neutral subject of their daily plans.

Four months after the writing exercise, 70 patients in the stressful-writing group showed improvement on objective, clinical evaluations compared with 37 of the control patients. In addition, those who wrote about stress improved more, and deteriorated less, than controls for both diseases. “So writing helped patients get better, and also kept them from getting worse,” says Smyth.” -Bridgett Murray (apa.org)

So take a few minutes today and Journal your thoughts, or write down some goals and ideas you have. Happy Writing and Happy health.